The Empowered Weak—Tomas and Tereza’s Power Reversal in Milan Kundera’s The Unbearable Lightness of Being
At first glance, Kundera seems to portray Tomas and Tereza, two of the four main characters in his novel, according to gender stereotypes, in which a man can freely go on physical adventures without injecting emotions in the process while the woman takes pains in tolerating his infidelities. In this regard, the relationship between Tomas and Tereza is complete inequity. Tomas is a skilled surgeon in Prague whereas Tereza is a waitress in a provincial town before they meet. Practically, Tereza is dependent on Tomas during the first few years of their love life after being ‘rescued’ by Tomas from her meager means and household humiliation (and Tomas himself considers her a child sent to him in a bulrush and whom he picks up to love and protect) and agonizes over Tomas’s unfaithfulness. Nevertheless, with Tereza’s distinctive self-perception, or to be more precise, obsession with her soul, her ineradicable residence in Tomas’s heart eventually transforms the libertine into the loyal husband.
To begin with, Tereza’s fixation on her soul is slightly different from the common female experience. According to Rivkin and Ryan’s introduction to essentialist feminism, women’s physical differences from men (birthing, lactation, menstruation, etc.) make them more connected with the physical world. Essentialist feminists argue that men must abstract themselves from the material world by separation from mothers in order to enter the patriarchate. They take a violent and aggressive posture towards the world they leave behind by interpreting it as an “object.” Women, on the other hand, are not required to separate from mothers. Thus, women’s psychological and physical ties to physical being remain unbroken. For Tereza, on the contrary, the blood ties and close proximity to her mother have brought her endless suffering and humiliation. Traumatized by her two dreadful marriages, Tereza’s mother puts all blame on Tereza, who has no choice but receiving the punishment. Not only is Tereza forced out of school given that she is an excellent student, she is both the breadwinner and the one responsible for household chores in the family. Worse still, her mother deliberately puts the ugliness of the body (e.g. marching around the mouse in the nude, farting) on display and denies the existence of youthful beauty in Teresa’s body. To bolster herself in the environment of physical repulsiveness, she longs for something “higher,” something not anchored to the body, as analyzed by Misurella in Understanding Milan Kundra: Public Events, Private Affairs. She worships books, music, and most importantly, her soul. When Tomas appears in the restaurant where she works, the fact that he is reading a book and the radio is playing Beethoven calls to Tereza’s very soul. She feels her soul within her body ascend “through her blood vessels and pores itself to him” (48), propelling her decision to leave her hometown to for Tomas without hesitation.
Unfortunately, Tereza’s expectations on Tomas are, in a way, mistaken. Although loving Tereza deeply, Tomas is the Don Juan who has the compulsion to hold various women in passionate embraces. Teresa’s anguish over Tomas’s infidelities is vividly reflected in her dreams. The most prominent one is the nightmare in which many naked women march around a pool and knee bend and Tomas would shoot a woman if her pose is not in accordance with others. Troubled by the women’s celebration of their sameness and struggling to keep up with them, Tereza feels that she is about to be shot by Tomas. Away from her mother and with Tomas, Tereza’s still feels that her individuality is ruthlessly violated. To have the man all to herself, what she could do was to overpower him, but she does not realize it until much later in the novel.
The Prague Spring forces the couple to take refuge in Zurich. While Tereza has photography as her profession in Prague before the Russian invasion, she counts on Tomas for everything in Zurich. Picking up a call from an unknown woman with a German accent further fills Tereza with jealousy. Driven by vertigo, defined by Kundera as the “heady, insuperable longing to fall” and “the intoxication of the weak” (76), Tereza decides to return to Czechoslovakia, the country of the weak, as an action not to drag Tomas down by her weakness. Tomas, of course, follows her to Prague. As they lie side by side in bed on the night Tomas returns, Tereza feels responsible for Tomas’ life and fate. Misurella regards Tomas’s homecoming as a turning point of their relationship, in which Tereza becomes the stronger partner in the marriage.
Due to the increasing social oppression in Prague, Tomas descends to work as a window washer. Tomas works from morning till afternoon while Teresa works from afternoon till night, so the couple rarely sees each others on week days. Although stuck with a job much inferior to his own profession, Tomas regards it as a break from surgery and makes the most of his working hours for more erotic adventures. Tereza, after sniffing another woman’s existence in Tomas’s hair, again feels her body’s inability to prove her uniqueness to Tomas. In another nightmare of hers, Tomas takes her to a park with red, yellow, and blue benches in it. Tomas sits on one of the benches and asks her to walk on top of a hill to acquire what she really wants. When she reaches the top, she sees men fulfilling people’s wish to die. The men carry rifles and escort people into a forest to choose a tree where they would like to end their lives. Tereza says it is not her choice to die when it is her turn, and the men let her go. This dream is a variation from the dream with marching naked women and Tomas since Tereza has the right of refusal this time. Tomas has absolute authority in the previous dream, but this time Tereza takes the responsibility of her own life. It is a sign that Tomas no longer has complete control over Tereza.
The aforementioned nightmare still leaves Tereza with bitter aftertastes. She makes up her mind to try sleeping with someone whom she does not love, to test Tomas’s theory of sex without love. She goes to the house of an engineer, who was a customer of the bar where she works. During their sexual intercourse, Tereza experiences contradictory feelings—her body’s excitement and her soul’s rejection to take the engineer in. She rebels against the man with whom she has sex in order to affirm her soul’s unconquerable position in her identity. Even though she considers her one-time affair with the engineer a mistaken step in her life, it instigates her choice to move to the country.
Tomas, having indulged himself in one or two erotic adventures, finally experiences emotional tiredness. His libertinism, interestingly, is linked to his desire to know the individuality of his lovers, the “millionth part dissimilarity” (199) that separates a woman from others. However, no matter how many women he has slept with, his heart is tied to Tereza alone, and none of his mistresses can replace Tereza’s position in his heart. Both he and Tereza realize how spiritually and physically ugly Prague has become, and amid pangs of stomachache, he agrees with Tereza’s suggestion to move to the country even when he knows that both his career and erotic adventures would come to an end afterwards. As Tereza comforts Tomas when he tries to sleep, role reversal has taken place in their relationship.
The lovers’ village life is not always pleasant, the peacefulness disturbed by Tereza’s suspicion of yet another Tomas’s affair and the death of their beloved dog, Karenin. During the days where Karenin’s health deteriorates, Tereza envies Karenin’s reveling in daily repetition and also sees the love from an animal as better love, as it does not require anything from the beloved one. In one dream of hers, Tomas shrinks into a tiny rabbit before her, and Tereza happily holds it in her arms and takes it into the room she had when she was a young girl. All in all, seeing an aging Tomas trying to refill a tire of a car one day, she understands that she is responsible for the end of Tomas’s professional career by making “a display of her suffering to him, thereby forcing him to retreat” (300). In the end, Tomas loses his strength and became a rabbit in her arms. Revealing her feeling of guilt to him, he assures her that he feels happy in the country.
Tereza’s love for nature in the last section of the novel reenters the shared realm of female experience. She identifies herself with the tranquility and harmony of nature and takes Tomas into her world in which they are both enveloped. Kundera makes light of the existence of idyllic happiness by killing off Tomas and Tereza in a car accident, but at least in their last hours on earth, they are bathed in bliss.
References
Irigaray, Luce. An Ethics of Sexual Difference.
Ithaca, N.Y.: Cornell University Press, 1993.
Kundera, Milan. The Unbearable Lightness of Being.
New York :Harper Perennial, 1999.
Misurella, Fred. Understanding Milan Kundera: Public Events, Private Affairs.
Columbia, S.C.: University of South Carolina Press, c1993.
Rivkin, Julie and Ryan, Michael. Literary Theory: an Anthology.
Malden, MA : Blackwell, 2004.
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